Its all about love and forgiveness so why Grudges

Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something.

Forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are confident enough to stand on their own two feet and move on. ‎

In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way.

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It's about accepting the past completely, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions. 

Nothing empowers your ability to heal and grow as much as your love and forgiveness. ‎
Sprinkle a little love into someone's heart today!

Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness.

Every act creates a ripple with no logical end..‎.

You Don’t Have To Wait For An Apology To Forgive

Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got.  ‎ The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative.‎ It's taking a step back and saying, "Thank you for the lesson."
It's realising that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today's happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head.‎

Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep.  ‎ When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.  ‎ It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.‎ Let's learn to forgive, it's healthy.‎

—–Be Inspired‎ & have a great weekend.

Cambridge Buries PDP’s Doubts On Buhari’s School Certificate

The University of Cambridge Local Examinations Syndicate, now known as Cambridge Assessment, has confirmed that African language papers, including Hausa, were offered for the West African School Certificate Examination in the Northern Region in 1961.

The UK examination body, in a statement on its website dated 23 January, also said that the number of candidates who sat for the WASSC Hausa examination in 1961 was 152.

The PDP campaign team and the party's cyber warriors have been attacking Maj. General Muhammadu Buhari, the presidential candidate of the All Progressives Congress over his school certificate result.

Despite the release of the result by the principal of the Katsina Government College, Buhari's old school, the PDP kept saying the result was fake.

Here is the full statement issued by the examining body. It is titled: Statement in response to Nigerian presidential election enquiries.

"The University of Cambridge Local Examinations Syndicate (UCLES), now known as Cambridge Assessment, in response to requests to authenticate a candidate's exam certificate, today said: "We can only confirm or verify results at the direct request of or with the permission of a candidate."

"This is in accordance with the provisions of the Data Protection Act 1998 and section 40 of the Freedom of Information Act 2000."

"The organisation also confirmed that according to the Regulations for 1961, African Language papers, including those for Hausa were set for the West African School Certificate.

"Examination results were classed in grades by 1 to 9. 1,2,3,4,5 & 6 indicate a Pass with Credit; 7 & 8 indicate a Pass; 9 indicates a Failure.

"To pass the School Certificate, candidates had to pass examinations in a variety of groups. It was compulsory to pass English Language, but not Maths, in order to gain the Certificate.

"The number of candidates who sat for the WASC Hausa examination in 1961 was 152.
Our records show that Hausa was set in the Northern Region in 1961."

Here is the link to the site:

http://www.cambridgeassessment.org.uk/news/statement-in-response-to-nigerian-presidential-election-enquiries

5 tough questions APC asked PDP in statement released by Lai Mohammed [MUST READ]

APC in a statement released on Sunday asked President Goodluck Jonathan and his party , PDP , Five questions they want answers to.The party's national publicity secretary, Alhaji Lai Mohammed, criticised Jonathan and the ruling party for their continuous attack on their presidential candidate, Muhammadu Buhari, Punch reports.

Lai told PDP in the statement and Jonathan to focus on his campaign and how he would tackle national problems rather than attack Buhari.

Read the questions below:

- Can you tell Nigerians how you plan to tackle the worsening insecurity in the land, the collapsing national currency, with the US dollar now exchanging for N215, massive unemployment, especially among the young, decayed infrastructure and the unprecedented corruption on President Jonathan's watch?

- Can you tell Nigerians what happened to the $20bn missing oil funds, and come clean on concerns that the money could have vanished into the ruling party's slush funds for the election campaign; and tell Nigerians how you plan to move from the near zero governance of the past six years of the Jonathan administration to good and purposeful governance.

- Mr President, where are the Chibok girls who were abducted nine months ago, and whom you promised to reunite with their families? What happened to the stage-managed truce with Boko Haram and why has no one been punished for deceiving Nigerians?

- Can you tell Nigerians why soldiers are being sent to battle Boko Haram without the necessary equipment, even though trillions of Naira have been budgeted for the security and defence sector.

- Can the president tell Nigerians why he castrated the anti-corruption agencies, rendering them comatose and unable to tackle the runaway corruption in the country.

The APC then wondered why Nigerians should trust Jonathan to deliver on his promises this time, if in the last four years he has not made any significant improvement .

"We believe that elections should be about issues that will be beneficial to the electorate, not about throwing everything but the kitchen sink at a particular candidate simply because of his soaring acceptability.
"Mr. President, you said while campaigning for the 2011 elections that 'four years is enough for anyone to make significant improvement, and if I can't improve on power within this period, it means I cannot do anything'. Why should Nigerians trust you to deliver on your promises this time around, now that the power situation has gone from bad to worse under your watch?
"Mr. President, instead of creating jobs for the teeming unemployed youth of Nigeria, your administration has been fleecing and sending them to their early graves, as it happened during the fraudulent immigration recruitment exercise in March 2014 when many innocent youths got death instead of jobs? When will you move from creating phantom jobs to real jobs? These are the issues that are bothering Nigerians and these are the issues they want answers to, instead of engaging in an unprecedented personality-focused campaign," the party said.

WHO MISLED OUR DEAR PRESIDENT? (A Must Read) – @DeleMomodu

Fellow Nigerians, please note that the title of my column today is written in the past tense. I must confess that I did it deliberately for reasons I will explain shortly. You probably remember an earlier article titled WHO'S MISLEADING OUR PRESIDENT? I had written too many unsolicited epistles in the past advising our dear President free of charge. Those accusing me of hating the President don't know me. I lack the capacity to hate anyone, not even my enemy. It is sinful to hate your fellow human being. My Christian faith teaches me to love my neighbours and forgive those who trespass against me. I intend to abide by those injunctions to the very end.
What is there to hate in President Goodluck Jonathan? For me, he is a man richly blessed by God almighty. He has achieved what no man would in many lifetimes. His story is a stuff of fiction and fairytale. It is a classic case of grass to grace or from a valley to the mountain top. Every man should use Jonathan as HIS prayer point/contact with God and seek his type of uncommon favour. The depiction of his life's trajectory had resonated with many Nigerians. We hoped and expected that he would know and appreciate the meaning of poverty. Nigeria badly needed a compassionate leader who would work for the general people and not for a few privileged fat cats.

We prayed and anticipated a relatively young and educated gentleman to come in and fix our comatose education. Dr Goodluck Jonathan fitted that bill almost in surreal terms with his PhD. Who could have been better suitable for such an onerous task if not Jonathan? We believed that here finally was a man to connect perfectly with the university eggheads and put an end to the incessant closure of our institutions of higher learning. But we were dead wrong. Our universities went on indefinite strike and at the height of this mutual madness, university lecturers who refused to go back to work were pronounced sacked with automatic alacrity.
Not even a military junta would have conjectured such ribaldry but a democratically elected government led by a former University Don not only envisioned it but made it reality. Beyond that, the substantive Minister of Education, a Professor in the person of Ruqayyah Ahmed Rufa'i was replaced by the Minister of State for Education, Nyesom Wike, a full-blown politician, whose understanding of his remit was undoubtedly suspect. It was a clear indication of how much disdain the Federal Government has for Education.
The President who was projected as a man who grew up without the basic necessities of life soon became a high-flying, jet-setting impresario. In fact, his government became so elitist that many started wondering why a man from a pedigree of frugality would become more flamboyant than any leader before him. Our President travelled at the flimsiest excuse. His unwieldy entourage, comprising of a multitude of acolytes, became a subject of international opprobrium. Yet the same government insisted that Nigerians must forgo the nebulous subsidy they had always enjoyed in varied forms in the past. The subsidy itself was a grand scam with the bill skyrocketing and quadrupling within the twinkle of an eye. Yet the citizens were told to pay more for the only semblance of privilege they should be enjoying.

The many mistakes of Jonathan are seemingly endless. The President behaved not like a national but a clannish Chieftain. It was as if he did not expect the year of reckoning to arrive sooner rather than later. I repeatedly warned against fighting on too many fronts which no reasonable General would indulge in. I'm yet to understand the logic behind alienating the rest of the nation as if their votes would never be needed. This is the most unfortunate attitude that led to what has become the President's albatross today.
Nothing has redefined this government than the seeming nonchalance of President Jonathan to the spate of Killings in Northern Nigeria.  Thousands of our brothers and sisters have been massacred like locusts and the response from government has become too predictable and totally insensitive. The standard practice is for the Presidential spokesman to come out with a cut and paste template of regurgitated message of alleged sadness and sympathy filled with empty promises that won't be kept. And then, life continues as normal with no sign of the monumental tragedy being addressed. No matter the number of the dead, our government goes ahead with whatever jamboree it has already planned.

The latest PR disaster comes with the President offering condolences to the French Government following the Charlie Hebdo tragedy which led to the death of 17 French citizens whilst almost 2000 people were killed in Baga at about the same time without attracting even the slightest whimper from our dear President.  Even the "Super" Minister Ngozi Okonjo-Iwealla succumbed to this fawning tribute of the 'whiteman' forgetting the massacre at home.  The Government was #JesuisCharlie, when it should have been. #AllforBaga! I urge Nigerians to let this Government know that Nigerians are also important even if we empathise with others.
Our President has never been able to mobilise and galvanise the people into coming together to fight a common enemy. The fact that every occurrence is suspected as an act of political opponents has made it difficult and almost impossible to rise up to some of the debilitating challenges we face today.
There are not many people in the world who don't feel terribly sad about our condition. The Western media has virtually written us off as a nation of violent vandals and vampires. So many reporters visiting Nigeria openly wonder if we actually have blood flowing through our veins. Many have concluded that we are just incapable of caring for those in need. The abduction of over 200 Chibok girls is what has exposed the type of leadership we are forced to live with. Our next door neighbour, Cameroon, has shown a greater capacity to fight terrorism than us. Their military has been motivated in a way that they've carried out kamikaze raids on dangerous hideouts. They have been able to rescue their people from captivity while we have suffered too many setbacks and casualties.
Since the disappearance of the Chibok girls all we've been told is the Government is working very hard. Worse still, more people have since disappeared or been murdered yet the news about them at home is usually scanty. We rely on foreign organisations for any useful information. Even the foreign media is endlessly frustrated by the trouble of getting government sources to open up and give clear answers to questions.

But politics appears to be more important to our leaders. Our civilians and military are being slaughtered like Salah rams and we don't seemed bothered. Nothing is likely to beat the type of disgrace we've suffered in the past one week. It is no longer news that the map of Nigeria has been boldly redesigned by daredevil terrorists; the dastardly attack on Baga and Doron Baga last week was the height of it.  There are vivid reports indicating that about 2,000 or more died from the indiscriminate shooting by assailants believed to be Boko Haram. Satellite images revealed that over 3,700 structures were damaged.
As usual, our government said the story was exaggerated and that the number of those killed could not have been more than 150. Even if true, how a country remains so calm and unperturbed by such degree of wanton destruction of lives and properties remains a mystery to me. Again, we all carried on as normal until BBC, Sky and CNN opened fire on our country. I could not bring myself to watch some of the reports to the very end out of a sense of collective guilt and shame. Once again, we were in the news for the wrong reasons.
Suddenly things began to happen in Abuja. Our President's handlers must have sensed danger with elections a month away. Nobody could afford this type of scandal at this auspicious time. The President who could not find time or the courage to visit the war ravaged parts in the recent past, especially Chibok, now found the time to go to Maiduguri but not Baga. It is a however too little and too late. It confirmed the people's impression that the President would do almost anything to remain in power. It is such a poor image of who we are. A little effort from our leaders would probably have reduced this tension.
There is nothing more disheartening than watching our soldiers, reduced to emotional wrecks while speaking to foreign journalists. Some are claiming how miserable life has become for those expected to safeguard us. They are ill-equipped, ill-motivated, and ill-protected.  One of them said he had to pay to obtain his uniform. I'm sorry, I just can't get it. It all sounds like tales by moonlight. What happened to all the fat allocations in our defence budgets? I remember the President asking and getting the Senate to approve N1billion loan to buy ammunition to fight Boko Haram.
I'm tempted to suspect that there are people who are deliberately deceiving and misleading our President. The confession that he gets conflicting and contradictory advice should demonstrate clearly why we are in this mess. I can see how this has now put so much pressure on the President. The tempo of his campaign has become racy because of the realisation that this election will not be a walkover.

But I doubt if those mistakes can be corrected in just one month leading to the election. The President has been sold too many lies because he chose to be a psychedelic leader than a man of the people politician who would personally supervise some of the work his aides claimed they have done. He would have been shocked to see the quality of what he's promoting as uncommon Transformation Agenda. Most of those achievements would have been seen as fake, poor, and abandoned projects.
The Murtala Muhammed International Airport remains one of the worst in the world despite the cosmetic renovation that took place at God knows how much. If in doubt, I can give a quick rundown: very terrible air-conditioning, archaic elevators, leaking roofs, lack of car parks next to the airport, cumbersome immigration process (the only country with double screening, Immigration and DSS), too many uniformed agents dipping hands into your luggage at this time and age, poor roads welcoming visitors going out of the airport, the list is endless.

So much has been said about roads. Nigeria still has some of the most useless roads in Africa. Most of those under rehabilitation have nowhere near completion. The Benin-Shagamu road is a veritable example. What is the purpose of rehabilitating only a part of it? That road remains a nightmare as does the Lagos-Ibadan which remains not only a nuisance to everyone but a death trap. It is strange how a government can make so much fuss over many uncompleted projects nationwide. Much has been said about the East-West road but like others, it has remained a work in progress. The second Niger Bridge has become a butt of jokes. I love the idea of trains but the government should have invested in modern coaches and certainly more than a single gauge line even if it has to find private investors. This would have complemented the good job done so far.

I have read so much about Agriculture and would love to applaud the dream of the Minister but I reserve that for another day as I don't know where and how he assembled his 10-14 million farmers and how it has impacted on our food production and distribution. This government has not justified the huge resources made available to it. Those days are gone when people would have glossed over some of the excesses. The social media has changed the world for good or for bad. Nigerians are not asking for too much. They are not even looking for saints as their leaders but they want men and women who are less greedy and more caring. Unfortunately, they've searched in vain for too long and it seems there is no end to this misery.
This is why in frustration they have turned to a man who left power 30 years ago, General Muhammadu Buhari. No one should blame us. It is in the character of human beings to run to the elders of the house in the days of tribulations. Everywhere you turn today what you hear is the cry of change. A wife rejected has suddenly become the beautiful bride in retrospect. Let no one envy Buhari because it is not his fault if those handed power on a platter of gold trampled on it.
From what I see and feel, Buhari's time has come and he looks unstoppable. People are simply tired of being lied to and they want to use someone as scape-goat. Sadly, President Jonathan is the one they see in front of them and it is a cross he has to carry like a man. Those who misled him are just waiting for their flights to a safe haven leaving him alone and forlorn.  Such is life.            

[ A MUST READ FOR MEN ] LEARN HOW TO BE ROMANTIC ON MONDAYS

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I thought of the perfect article to write on a Monday morning. I didn't want to go down the cliché root of motivation for career and stuff.

A lot of people attribute Mondays to career success, hustle and bustle but I am telling you and you better believe me man! Today is the perfect day to be romantic to your girl. Why? Weekends are the cliché romantic days, you take her out, you basically have some hours to spend with her- cool but not as cool as this: Mondays are the busy days! the not-so-smiling days. Mondays are the days when they say, the boys are not smiling! I'm sure in some relationships there are no communications on Mondays!
(I honestly do not regard pings as communication-ugh) But really who is thinking about Love on Mondays? who really does have time to be mushy on Mondays? when I'm sure the  traffic gives you the first blow and then probably your boss gives you some other blows for the rest of the day.
But hey, it takes a little extra effort for you to be an unpredictable romantic man. I want you to be romantic this Monday to your girlfriend, or wife.

A TEXT (text and not PING please) can change everything. I choose a text because you maybe too busy to call, or she may even be so busy to pick calls right now but a text always works because no matter when she sees it, it can relate . Imagine you have jogged for a 100 kilometers, without water and under hot sun, now imagine when cold water is poured over your head and you even have some to drink- Imagine the big smile on your face, imagine how refreshed you will be. That's what a text can do to both you and your partner on a day like this.  Yes, you are busy but take out some 20 seconds to type a nice text to her. Don't worry I wont leave you stranded, I'll help out. (you owe me)

Avoid texts like 'What are you doing?' if she's working class as well. Most likely you might get a 'Duhh' answer . Also avoid 'How are you' of course you'd get an 'I'm good' and that may be it for the rest of the day!

Here's a few:

– 'Thinking of you makes my day easier (the perfect time to send this is now-morning peak period)

– 'Have you had something to eat (send this a little over lunch time)

– 'You know I love you right' (anytime before evening)

– 'Take a picture of you now and send to me (now!)

– 'Cant wait to be home/ can't wait to see you/no place like home  (evening)

– I miss you already (now!)

– * credit digits* (now!)

– Just want you to know, you bring out the best in me (afternoon odd times)

– Just a reminder that I've always got your back   (afternoon as well)

– One proof that God's been good to me, is you by my side.  (afternoon)

– Thanks for loving me at my best and my worst.   (afternoon)

– *credit her account* I hope this something little can help get you something you'd really like this week. (Now!)

– The only thing that inspires me in this damn office is when I remember the reason I'm actually working my butt out- To give you and the kids the world you deserve. (afternoon odd time)

-I'm sorry, I know I got you mad. You got me mad too, but I love you anyway. We'd talk about it when I get home. (Now!)

– I still do not know what I did to deserve you (Now!)

– Hey Babes. Just checking. (Now!)

– I may not be sure of many things, but the one thing I know is that you're my guy any day. (afternoon)

– Thanks for the food this weekend- It was great (Now!)

– I love you (Now!)

– *a hug/kiss/both smiley* (Now!)

 Well if you are not so busy- you may decide to call, but honestly i think the text thing would work better. calling is easier- but typing when she knows you are busy-that's just sweet
Have a romantic Monday!

Image credit: www.inmagine.com
: Written by Lowlade

MUST SEE FOR LADIES:: Checkout the 2 types of P£nis men have. [20+ Only]

Men of now-a days love and take pride in their penis size and their ability to please their women.

But even more than men can ever love their penises, the women who indeed, in the real sense of it, 'own' and 'need' it.

Many a man has been left in search of a bigger penis just to please a woman while many women have also moved on to another man because they were not satisfied with the penis they last had.

But do people know the types of penises ?

There are two kinds of penises — the 'Grower' and the 'Shower'.

1. The GROWER penis: just likes its name implies, expands and gets longer as it gets erect. What this means is that, if it was 5 inches before stimulated, it might get as long as 7-8 inches after getting fully erect. Someone who seemed to have a small penis might end up getting too long for comfort after erection. So guys with tiny penises should confirm first – they might end up getting bigger, if they own a grower penis.

2. The SHOWER penis: looks huge when it is not erect. You see a guy walking and there is this bulge in his pants. You may think he'll be huge. But he a shower pen*is does not increase too much after erection. A five inches shower pen*is may not get longer than 5.5 of 6 inches after ere*ction.

What this means is that the man who seems big may not really be big while a man who looked small may own the biggest after erection.

Considering that a recent survey shows that 79% of men have growers, men with small peni*ses should not really be bother.

They might end up giving better bedroom satisfaction after 'growing' on erection.